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What Are The Four Agreements?

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  Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements has transformed innumerable lives. What started out as a philosophy has turned into a way of life for so many. Ruiz says, “Everything we do is based on agreements we have made — agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves.” Below are these revered four agreements and how you can implement them into your life.

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Being impeccable with your words means saying only what you mean by telling only the truth. When you’re telling the full truth, you’ll learn that half-truths are lies. You must also stop all gossip and rumors about yourself and others. When you are being impeccable with your word, you’ll soon learn that you have the power to change the world with your words. You’ll want to change the world for the better, and your words need to reflect that. You’ll learn when you’re being impeccable with your word that it’s not only what you say that matters, but how you say it. Use your words to spread love and light. Be impeccable with your word.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

Not taking anything personally means realizing that the actions and words of those around you do not have anything to do with you. When you aren’t taking anything personally, you are free from overthinking the feelings and judgements of other people because you know that their words do not reflect who you are. You’ll learn that nothing others do is about you, so you won’t take anything to heart. Don’t take anything personally.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

Not making assumptions means that you will use healthy communication skills to do your best to avoid misunderstandings and drama. By not making assumptions, you are able to stop yourself from guessing what others mean. If you are unsure of something, not making assumptions means that you will learn to ask questions to clarify what is currently unclear. Don’t make assumptions.

4. Always Do Your Best

Always doing your best means that you are giving every action your all. When you are doing your best, you are trying to make your life and the world as a whole a better place. You’ll learn that you can only be content when you are doing your best. This means that you are doing your best to avoid self-doubt, self-abuse, and regret. Always do your best.

Arbor Behavioral Healthcare is here to help you live out life-enhancing ideals stated in The Four Agreements. We know that it can be difficult, but we also know that it’s worth it. Living with these agreements helps better your recovery journey. Call us today for more information at (844) 413-2690. We can’t wait to hear from you!