An apology can be a powerful tool for healing and repairing broken relationships.  When an apology is sincere, heartfelt, and acknowledges wrongdoing, saying out loud that you feel genuinely bad about hurting someone can help that person to move on, and if they choose, perhaps forgive you.  Saying you are sorry all the time, however, can be problematic on several levels. If you find you are constantly apologizing to people you love, or someone in particular, but find yourself repeating the same behavior, your apologetic sentiments have likely worn out their welcome.  Words can bare weight and help resolve conflicts, but with overuse, words become meaningless. 

It is true what they say, that actions speak louder than words.  If your loved ones are tired of hearing you say sorry, they are probably waiting for you to change your behavior.  While hearing apologies on a regular basis can get old quick, it is also painful and embarrassing to have to be the one constantly delivering the apology.  Some people may believe that apologies without changed behavior come only from someone who does not wish to change. If you are genuine in your regret, but find yourself unable to change, it may be time to seek professional help.

For those struggling with substance use disorders, apologies can feel like part of a vicious cycle.  You may have hurt someone when you were drunk or high with your words or actions, only to feel terrible about it the next day.  You may have embarrassed your partner or lied to someone you love to continue to feed your addiction. It can be frustrating to want so badly to prove to your loved ones that you don’t intend to hurt them, only to find yourself hurting them yet again.  Seeking treatment for addiction is an action that proves your desire to change, and may help your friends and family to understand that you are sincere.

If you or someone you love has developed an addiction, now is the time to reach out for help.  At Arbor Behavioral Healthcare, you will meet knowledgeable, compassionate professionals that understand addiction in all its forms.  The Arbor uses an integrative and holistic approach to treat addiction and mental health issues. No treatment is one-size-fits-all, and at The Arbor, you will have a team of experts prepared to create your customized treatment plan.  We offer care for your mind, body, and spirit so that you can heal from the inside out and look forward to a lifetime of sobriety and wellness. If you are ready to take the first step in your recovery, please call us at 844-413-2690.